Just the thought of having to spend one day of the holiday season with that annoying relative or co-worker is making you nervous. Maybe “the incident” at your uncle’s house last year is causing you to re-think your holiday plans. Or, it could be that your ex will have custody of the kids leaving you to be alone and somewhat angry. It is not uncommon for people to enter the holiday season with anxiety over relationships that are estranged or unhealthy.
Here are a few tips that demonstrate the best ways to set aside differences before the holiday approaches:
- If you have a serious (non-violent or threatening) grievance with someone, try to make time to discuss it before the holiday season or decide to table it until afterwards.
- Recognize that some people will be dealing with issues that have nothing to do with you at all. Try to be compassionate and empathetic without contention.
- Vow not to be confrontational at the expense of other people’s enjoyment. Vow not to affect the atmosphere with a bad attitude.
- If worse comes to worst, remove yourself from situations that are potentially explosive. Find more peaceful ways to observe the holidays.
- Always rely on your faith to guard your behavior and protect you from drama. Pray, it works.
Fragile relationships will not necessarily with holiday good cheer. However, if you take measures to navigate them now, you can probably have an enjoyable time.